Your foster dog becomes what we call a ‘second-class citizen’.

It’s natural to want to shower your new foster with love and attention because they came from the shelter and your resident dog lives a comfortable life with you. DO NOT DO THIS. By opening your home, the foster’s life has already improved tremendously.

Why the Hierarchy Matters

If you give all attention and privileges to the new dog:

  • Your resident dog suffers: They could get jealous, depressed, and feel replaced in their own home

  • The foster misunderstands: The new dog could see themselves as having higher status and start challenging or bullying your resident dog

  • Conflict escalates: Multiple dogs will compete for your attention in potentially destructive ways, leading to fights and behavioral problems

  • Your resident dog may act out: Even well-behaved dogs can develop unwanted behaviors (destructiveness, accidents, aggression) when they feel their place in the family is threatened

Important Note:

ALL high-value toys, bones, and treats must be put away for the first week. Even if your resident dog doesn’t care about a toy right now, they may suddenly become interested if the foster shows interest in it. No toys in communal areas. Only give your foster a bone or chew in their crate.

What This Means in Practice

  • Your foster goes through doors AFTER your resident dog

  • Your resident dog eats first

  • Your foster is not allowed on furniture (even if your resident dog is—this also helps with adoption)

  • You must give more attention to your current dogs than your foster—they need to know you’re not replacing them

  • Greet your resident dog first when you come home

  • Pet your resident dog first and more frequently

  • You can gradually allow your foster more privileges, but establish the hierarchy first